Tuesday, July 5, 2011

My Best Friend

Last Sunday, my Beloved and I celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. I know it's cliche. I know it sounds cheesy. But I really do believe our marriage gets better and better as time goes on. We know each other better, we appreciate each other more, we understand each other more, we communicate MUCH better, we simple enjoy each other more.

Seth is an amazing man. And frankly, I feel sorry for every other women in the world who isn't married to him. ☺ Seriously, he's wonderful.

When I was a teenager, I was so bored that I resorted to reading the celebrity biographies that my mom collected. Along with learning some weird non-useful information about Yul Brenner, I read something I've never forgotten. When George Burns was asked what  was the secret to his long, happy marriage to his wife Grace, he said the secret was being married to Gracie. She was the reason it worked. And that truly is the case with Seth and I. We're happy. We don't fight. We don't argue. We don't need breaks from each other. We don't belittle each other. And it's not because of me. I'm likely to pick fights. I'm pretty good at arguing. I can have a tongue so biting and belittling, you'd be shocked. But Seth just doesn't participate. Ever try to argue with yourself? It's boring. From the very start in our relationship, he has set a tone of peace and loving kindness.

Seth is a man of principle. This is probably his greatest attribute. On matters of right and wrong, he doesn't waver. Do I occasionally disagree on what is "right" and what is "wrong"? Yes, of course. But I'm happy to pass the buck to him, because I know that one day, he will stand before God and give an account for our family. I want him to have a great judgement day. If he chooses to err on the side of caution, I can find security in this. And there have been several instances when I initially thought he was being more conservative than necessary but later came to see a great deal of wisdom in the decision. And on those occasions where I feel like we're doing or not doing something that God would want, he's always very willing to hear me out. We both have the Holy Spirit dwelling inside us, after all. And then the rest of life's choices... the opinions and preferences... Seth is always willing to surrender his wants to mine, or our children's. Or just about anyone. Seth is slow to express opinions. I'm literally happy when he does so that I have an opportunity to do something the way he likes.

Also, it doesn't hurt that he's such a good loookin' guy. I mean, just look at him... you'd never guess he's had 3 children. ☺
 We enjoyed a delicious dinner out on our actual anniversary. Today, we took up a baby sitting offer from my husband's fantastic aunt and uncle, and went golfing together for the first time in way too long. (Last summer I was way too pregnant!)

As we headed to the course this morning, we both set goals for the 9 holes: Seth was aiming for 50 while I hoped for 90. Yes, I'm a bad golfer. I get the same score golfing and bowling. This is not good. But I do really enjoy golfing... with JUST Seth. I'm too self conscience to golf with other people. For one thing, I take a very long time, and another is that part of the correct golf stance is sticking your hiney out, which I try not to do in front of people, if I can at all help it.
 But after Seth snapped these pictures of me, I now have a new reason to never golf with anyone else. Just look at this expression on my face!
 We need a close up of this monstrosity:
 Wow. Please tell me I don't make this face all the time! I literally had no idea my face could even do this until I got the pictures off the camera. Scary! Wow. I'm abandoning all vanity to even post this but it's so comical yet freaky I must share it with the world. I really wasn't concentrating that hard!

Despite my face's look of consternation, we had a very relaxing, fun time. Not only did I reach my goal, I surpassed it! I got a 61! Yeah!!! This was the best I have ever done. Seth didn't do as well as he would have liked (52)... but he looked happy none the less:
The course was beautiful and quiet, and the temperature was absolutely perfect. By the time the heat of the day began to come, we were finishing up. Golfing is a great date; I highly recommend it. Get a couple cool drinks, snuggle as you ride the golf cart, give each other saucy, inappropriate names on the score card, and pretend you need his help with your swing (wink, wink).

I'm looking forward to many more anniversaries with my best friend!



Mendi... said...

Fun, fun, fun! Kyle & I just celebrated our 20th and I totally agree...the love I have for My Man grows deeper with each day that passes. That's what happens to a marriage when God is at the center! Like you, I feel like the richest woman in the world!

Happy Anniversary! Glad you had a great golf date! :o)

♥ Amy ♥ said...

Hahahahaha... Lovely face, Kayte, and what a great sport to share with us. You are hilarious!

I love, love, love to read of other happily married couples. There are far too many unhappy ones. So glad you and Seth had a wonderful day (and life) together. I loved the looking great after 3 kids comment, too. ;)

I'd tell you Chris' name for me on the Wii, but... Well, I might tell you, but I wouldn't do it publicly - wink, wink. Isn't marriage fun? :)

Love from another happily married woman. Have a great day!

Jamiee said...

Whats even more scary with that picture is I see MOM!

Korina said...

You had me grinning and laughing the whole way through this one, Kayte. :) You and Seth were most definitely made for each other!

Tinyla said...

This seams to be the season for anniversaries! I enjoyed reading about yours and your admiration for your husband. Congrats! P.S. I learned about your blog through Maria's. She and I went to college together and are best friends.
- Tinyla

Julie Fink said...

I love this and you just keep feeling this way forever and ever and ever Amen. ♥

Kayte said...

Thank you friends!

Mendi! 20 yrs.!! Awesome! I love the big milestones. I have big plans for our 10th! =)

Amy, my busband has my phone number as "Hot Lips" on his cell phone. I wouldn't even share that except every kid in our school already knows! =P I try to keep them PG at the most. lol

Jamiee, I know! lol

Korina, thanks! Seth is hapy for you and Mark with your exciting news! =)

Tinyla, Hi! Nice to "meet" you! Your name looks beautiful typed out; how do you pronounce it?

Mrs. Fink, thank you! I'm so glad to have friends who've been married a good long time who don't say things like "oh you'll get over that in a few years" or something similar. You're an encourager, for sure!

Jennie said...

"I want him to have a great judgment day." That statement has really stuck with me. I even taught a ladies devotion on it after I read it. I always love reading your blog.....but this one statement has really helped me press a reset button. Thank you!!